What’s this ‘unrooted’* thing?
In today’s world, many of us spend a lot of time trying to become grounded & centered humans. Unfortunately, along the way, some of us get caught up in perfecting that picture of ‘grounding and centered’; often times to our own detriment.
Life is not easy. Life is unexpected. And life can feel pretty unrooted.
So, what if we spent a bit more time focusing on unrooting from the unhelpful parts? The parts that are actually within our control?
Parts like:
Negative core beliefs
Having it all together
Harmful relational dynamics
Controlling the ‘uncontrollables’*
Staying rooted
Most of the time, we develop these parts through combinations of environmental messages, biological factors, and romanticized societal expectations. Even if they feel deeply engrained, we have the ability to develop new parts.
Parts like:
Redirecting the ‘unhelpfuls’ *
Leaning into vulnerability
Repairing after conflict
Navigating the uncontrollables
Staying human
GLOSSARY:
UN.EX.PECT.EDS*
adjective. the (many) life events and experiences that are quite opposite from what we ever pictured for ourselves.
UN.CON.TROLL.A.BLES*
adjective. the things in life that seem to get further & further from our hands the more we grasp for them.
UN.HELP.FULS*
adjective. the thoughts, beliefs, urges, messages, & behaviors that never have or no longer serve us.
UN.ROOT.ED*
adjective. describing an individual who is actively practicing detaching from patterns of perfectionism, rigidity, & attempts at control through directing energy toward vulnerability, acceptance, & healthy relational connection.
Hi,
I’m Kendra (she/her).
I’m a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker & fellow unrooter. Much of my passion for this work comes from my own practices of unlearning. In a few words, my therapeutic style is a mix of laid-back but straightforward, relationally-focused, & expressive. I believe laughter is therapeutic & swearing is basically a pre-req @ this point.
The universe is a shit sometimes; it seems to enjoy throwing curveballs right when life starts to settle. And it can be damn helpful to have a safe space to sort through it all. I join clients in navigating these ‘unexpecteds’* and strengthening into their ‘you’ in the process.